Infidelity: It's Not Rocket Science!

Scientists, Robin Milhausen and Kristen Mark at the University of Guelph and Erick Janssen from The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction at Indiana University, studied the link between gender, our "sexual personality", and our probability of cheating. Having studied over 900 men and women, their report concluded pretty much what we've learned from every daytime soap opera and nightly telenovela: Men cheat when they can't control they're urges, and women cheat when they're sexually unsatisfied.

Read more about their study at huffingtonpost.com and comment on my blog.   Infidelity Linked To 'Sexual Personality': University of Guelph Study

Shining the Light on Children of Divorce

By Nigel Lawson

After deciding on divorce, it becomes even more complicated when you have to tell your children.  It’s no secret that divorce can adversely affect a child's emotional and social development.  Confusion, uncertainty, anger, and hopelessness are common feelings children experience under the stress of divorce.  This can lead to aggressive behavior, distrust, withdrawal, and even depression.   As parents, there are some important things you can do to ease your children’s pain and help them through this difficult transition.  

To Mend or Not to Mend? That is the Question!



By Nigel Lawson

The other day I called up an old musician friend of mine I hadn’t seen in about five years.  He asked how I was doing and how my wife was doing.  When I told him I was divorced,  he sounded shocked and equally embarrassed.  I reassured him I was doing fine, and the break up was really the best thing for both of us.

He inquired more about what led to our break up and what measures we took to try to salvage our marriage.  After answering his questions, he admitted the reason for his interest in my situation was that he himself was contemplating divorce. 

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By Nigel Lawson

To those visiting my blog for the first time, I welcome you.  I formed this blog page along with the members of our cover band of the same name, The DDC for short.  The three founding members are either divorced or separated and in the process of divorce.  The fourth member is currently in a long term relationship, but plays killer blues guitar, so we decided to let him stay in the band. 

I would say our band formed out of the necessity to find a positive outlet for the financial, mental, and emotional stress brought on by divorce.  We discovered that music, and the joy it brought our audiences, was our best therapy.  We spent countless hours rehearsing and discussing our problems.  Ultimately, our discussions led to solutions which provided us the tools to deal with the unique challenges men of divorce face.